Valentine’s Day and Hygge

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Oh, February 14… How you make people go crazy with heart-shaped everything and make restaurants busier than usual on a Wednesday night.

I can’t help but love you (pun intended).

Growing up, I’ve always been a hopeful romantic. I grew up mesmerized by romantic comedies and was obsessed with Audrey Hepburn films when where she would end up with the most unlikely men – but the ones that she needed the most.

I definitely had my share of dating around and meeting new people, and now I’m stupidly happy with my current boyfriend of over a year.

When we were figuring out Valentine’s Day plans, he sends me a text that makes my heart sink a bit. He’s working towards being an actuary, and he needs to do a specific assessment this week, which caused him to ask if we could reschedule Valentine’s Day.

RESCHEDULE?! WHAT IS THIS RESCHEDULE THING?

^ That’s what the 13-year-old Dani inside me thought.

23-year-old Dani spoke to him about it a bit more and then realized how much better it was to reschedule our plans. By having it on the long weekend Monday, we’d have the entire day together, we could finish our assignments beforehand and really engage with one another, and the chocolate we’d buy for each other will be 50% off!

I think the primary difference between 13 and 23-year-old Dani responses (besides the whole growing up part) is thanks to hygge. Yep, you guessed it, hygge. By feeling content in seeing how strong the pros are to reschedule, it became a no-brainer. I stepped away from what I felt I was supposed to feel and thought about what we wanted. We want a distraction-free time to celebrate each other, not a tradition that tells us we have to do it on a specific day.

Today, he got up, went to his desk, and worked on his assessment for over 10 hours.

Today, I got up, went to school, went to an anxiety forum, went to class, handed in an assignment, went to the gym, brought home dinner to eat with my family, finished three other assignments, and got to hear about his day.

And it was all filled with love.

What I learned through hygge is that if it’s worth it for the contentment and comfort, anything can be changed. If we had dinner tonight, my boyfriend would have been distracted by his studies, and I would be anxious about not being home to finish my homework. By having dinner on Monday instead, we can genuinely be hyggelig together.

Valentine’s Day is not on February 14. It’s every day that you choose to fill your relationship with hyggelig love.

Warm wishes,

Dani

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